Imagine you hook up a fire hose to a super powerful fire hydrant. I want to challenge you to learn how to hold that Pressure. You hear about Fapstronauts relapsing because they "need a release." I’d argue this is the exact opposite thing they need, but it is an understandable conclusion to come to. Addiction provides an "outlet" for the Pressure. So when we wish to avoid the death of an old part of ourselves, we need to divert the Pressure - otherwise it will begin crushing us.Īvoiding the Pressure can cause all sorts of problems in our life, but the most noteworthy one for our case here is addiction. This death is intrinsically scary - even if it is just in the sense of an "ego death" (sometimes this can actually seem more scary). Just like how a caterpillar must give up life as a caterpillar to become a butterfly, we must give up who we are currently being to transform into a better version of ourselves. The problem is, this Pressure almost always requires a "death" in order to step into a new life / new consciousness. In secular language, you could think of it as the psychological force of the super ego, the inner growth instinct calling you to continue your personal evolution. The more prolific their good works, the less resistance they have to the Pressure.įrom a spiritual perspective, I'd argue that the Pressure is God's Love - almost overwhelmingly powerful, calling us to live up to a higher standard and pursue our purpose. Anyone who accomplishes anything of merit has done it through utilizing this force. If we stop fighting the Pressure, it grants us the tremendous power necessary to move through inner and outer blocks. The Pressure is our best friend - it is our resistance to the pressure that is the enemy. However, I now realize how foolish that is. That something is the Pressure, and by going through your reboot you are giving it the opportunity to transform your life. Deep inside you there is something telling you it’s the right move. Looking back, this is the same reason I gave up porn and I'm willing to bet this is the same reason most of you are going through reboot as well. I didn't realize it when I was doing it, but this is why I gave up video games - so that I could stop running from the Pressure and start taking care of these important things that are going to have a major impact on my life. But here's the thing, if I don't look at them, I know that I will never find any answers. To be honest, they are rather terrifying and extremely uncomfortable to examine because, well, I simply don't know what to do. These are the things that the Pressure wants me to look at. What's the core message? Who's the audience? Is it religious, secular, or blended? Do I blog, vlog, write books, or do podcasts? Am I just being selfish, and instead of dividing my efforts should I just focus on porn addiction? What do I do with the Sacred Sexuality Project? Do I even really have anything worthwhile to say? The problem is trying to figure out what that looks like. I know I want to continue my work with the NoFap Academy, but I feel like I have even more to give in different areas beyond porn addiction. We've referred to this before as an "escape behavior."įor me, that pressure is figuring out my "art." My art is to create content that helps people toward their goals of personal/spiritual development. An addiction allows one to numb the pain of denying the Pressure. One of the most powerful forms of compensation is engaging in an addiction. We intuitively know what we should be doing, and when we don't do it - we need to compensate. Running from the Pressure takes a massive psychological toll on us. It will manifest in anxiety dreams, tension headaches, stomach problems etc. When we reject the Pressure, it haunts us. It could be your art, school work, getting in shape, pursuing a dream, whatever that important thing is that you are ignoring. It is that thing that you are avoiding doing. We all know "the Pressure." It is that force that is constantly pushing somewhere inside of you to seek out "something better." It's there when you wake up and when you go to sleep.
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